Do you ever go through seasons of feeling alone or like no one understands what’s going on in your life? Do you ever feel like you’re living a double life–happy on the outside but inside you’re just aching and struggling? I have definitely been there and I know that there will probably be times like that off and on throughout life. But I also have encouragement to share about those particular times–and it’s SO good and it has helped me through so many different seasons of struggles! If you are having a day, month, or even year like this–I hope you can be comforted and know that you are seen!
First of all, Jesus understands. Jesus understands everything about you. Jesus understands everything about whatever is going on in your life. Jesus understands what it’s like to hurt and feel anguish.
John 11:35 Jesus wept.
Hebrews 4:15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.
Jesus knows you. Jesus knows you like no one else. Jesus knows your heart like no one else.
1 Samuel 16:7b For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.
Psalm 139:1 (but the whole Psalm is a song about how God knows you) O, Lord, you have searched me and known me!
Psalm 44:21 For he knows the secrets of the heart.
Jesus sees you. You are not hidden from God. He is with you and will always see you.
Psalm 38:9 O Lord, all my longing is before you, my sighing is not hidden from you.
Jesus can be trusted. Jesus can be trusted to hear your cries, anger, hurt, frustration, etc. Jesus can be trusted to carry your burdens. Jesus can be trusted to be the ONLY person you need to rely on during a tough time. Jesus is the only one you should be concerned about how He sees you.
Hebrews 4:16 Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Psalm 19:14 Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sigh, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.
Psalm 26:2-3 Prove me, O Lord, and try me; test me heart and my mind. For your steadfast love is before my eyes, and I walk in your faithfulness.
Secondly, you need people. You can’t get through an unseen time alone. We weren’t created to be like that.
It is OK to talk to people about what you’re going through. Be brave. Be vulnerable. Be transparent. I’m not saying that you have to tell anyone and everyone about everything in your life, but talk to those you trust the most. Talk to those who are going to lead you wisely. Don’t be afraid to share your heart with someone, if they are in your inner circle–they will understand and love you.
Your story might be able to help someone else. You never know what someone else might be going through and your experience might even be able to help someone else get through something unseen that they are dealing with.
But also, give others grace if they don’t know what’s going on in your life. Sometimes you can’t expect someone to understand what you’re going through. Do not feel anger or bitterness towards someone if they’re just not “getting” what you’re dealing with.
And lastly, rest well. You are not a robot and are not expected to deal with life without having some kind of response. Do not feel guilty in those moments when you know that you just need rest. Even Jesus was weary and needed to be alone and find rest. Jesus created rest and He will give us rest. Jesus commands us to rest.
John 4:6 Jesus therefore , being wearied with His journey, sat at the well and it was about the sixth hour.
Mark 6:32 And they went away in the boat to a desolate place by themselves.
Matthew 11:28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Exodus 33:14 And he said, “My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”
Mark 2:27 And he said to them, “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.”
Exodus 23:12 Six days you shall do your work, but on the seventh day you shall rest; that you may be refreshed.
You are seen and you are deeply loved!